In my latest blog entry for the Institute for the Study of Conflict Transformation, which you can see here,  I tell the story of a parenting mediation that had a surprising ending.

My latest post, at the Institute for the Study of Conflict Transformation’s website, can be found here.

Join us in Rome in June!  Read all about it here.

In my latest blog entry, linked here, I describe how the Dayton Mediation Center has succeeded.  A big part of the story is their commitment to the transformative model.  You can also see video of a presentation made by Michelle Zaremba to the Dayton City Commission.

“The normal response of a healthy adult when faced with coercion is to resist.” Judge Bruce Peterson of Minneapolis pointed out, in explaining how family courts WORSEN conflict. Read the full article here.

Erik Cleven and Judy Saul are transformative mediators and members of the Board of Directors of the Institute for the Study of Conflict Transformation. This spring they visited Nairobi, Kenya to teach transformative dialogue to people involved in communities affected by ethnic and political conflict. Read the full…

Yes, often it is!  So the question is. . . how do we help people have a better conversation about the money?  Read the full article here.

Guest bloggers, Dusty and Vicki Rhoades, describe transformative mediation’s impact in Maryland in my latest blog entry.

Guest blogger, Arnold Seman, says those magical mediation moments aren’t really magic.  Read the article here.

My latest blog entry provides links to a bunch of videos availabe online about transformative mediation.  Click here to see it.

Is that really how we should look at it? Read the full entry here.

Howard looked depressed. His head hung low; his brow was furrowed; he spoke slowly and sadly. “This divorce has devastated me. I haven’t been sleeping; I can’t work; I can’t think straight; I don’t know what to do.” www.transformativemediation.org

Folger talks in this article about how the transformative theory of conflict can be applied to how we manage our own conflicts. Read the full article here:  www.transformativemediation.org/

Compared to the way mediation is conducted in many litigated cases, transformative mediation sounds like therapy.  Read my lastest blog entry here, to learn why it’s not therapy, but it is therapeutic.  www.transformativemediation.org/

People in conflict often talk it out with each other very successfully.  Sometimes they do it without the help of a mediator.  What does that mean for mediators? Read my latest blog post here:  www.transformativemediation.org/

Many mediators say that they do “whatever works”.  Others say they’re committed to a certain approach. My latest blog entry discusses why it makes sense to commit to one approach. Read it here:  www.transformativemediation.org/

As in all types of conflict, Erik Cleven observes that interethnic conflict benefits most from processes that maximize participant choice.  See the full article linked here.

One of the greatest criticisms of mediation is that it may promote settlement at the expense of justice.  Read the article linked here for a discussion of this possibility. www.transformativemediation.org/

The Dalai Lama describes a phenomenon I often see in mediation.  See the article linked here:   www.transformativemediation.org/

Transformative mediators believe our clients should call all the shots about the process.  So when they ask us for advice, shouldn’t we go ahead and give it to them?  Read the full article here:  www.transformativemediation.org/

Here’s my latest blog entry for the Institute for the Study of Conflict Transformation. I talk about how Carl Rogers, the founder of humanistic psychology, had a lot of the same beliefs about people as transformative mediators do.  You can read the whole entry here: www.transformativemediation.org/ 

Basia Solarz has created and implemented an impressive transformative mediation program at the Health Authority in Nova Scotia. Here’s her description of how she did it.

I work as a Conflict Transformation Specialist for Capital District Health Authority in Nova Scotia, Canada. In this role, I provide mediation, individual and…

Assuming that you are clear that you want to get divorced, the process for completing a divorce in Minnesota is pretty simple. The only serious complications that arise come from conflict with your spouse or over-reliance on lawyers, or both. Many of my clients go through a…

It’s really up to you and your co-parent.  Yes, really.  This is different from how divorce lawyers see it, but the truth is, as long as you and your co-parent are happy with your agreement, it is completely up to the two of you (unless the person receiving child…

Not really. Judges love it if you and your co-parent figure out what works for you, since judges understand that if you’re not both satisfied, there are likely to be problems in the future. If you and your co-parent don’t agree and you ask a judge to…

Good question. I’ve certainly seen situations where divorce lawyers seem to do much more harm than good. But I don’t think it’s intentional on their part. Having been trained in the law myself, I understand how lawyers assume that it’s helpful to advise clients about what…

Transformative Mediation now available in Saint Paul!  I’ve opened my new office on the second floor of the Highland Shopping Center.  I’ll continue to provide transformative mediation of divorces, parenting disputes, employment cases, workplace conflicts, estate disagreements, and any other type of conflict where you’d like some help having…